The Power of Belief – Your Mind is Powerful
Can you change people that don’t want to change? Kris Krohn here with Limitless TV and my wife, Kalenn, joining me today and she’s had some powerful life experiences that she’s going to be sharing about how powerful belief really is in our own personal life. – But tell me can you change people that don’t want to change? – You certainly can’t but there’s hope. So if we’re going to talk about the power of belief then let’s go ahead and tackle probably one of the most challenging beliefs that there is, change is hard and you know what? It reminds me of that story of Scrooge, you know, the one, right? The man named Scrooge who clearly doesn’t want to change and yet because he spent an entire lifetime resisting it, what ended up happening before his death day, well he was visited by these three different ghosts that ended up helping him discover the power of change. In fact, the reality is that go ahead and believe change is hard, go ahead and believe it’s difficult, go ahead and believe it’s impossible and let me ask you, what results is that belief system creating for you? – And what Scrooge believed was, I have to hold on, I can’t let go, I have to keep things to myself, I have to keep me to myself, I have to keep my money to myself, I have to shut everyone else out because I hate people and what did he get from that? Misery, being alone, having all the money to himself but he never spent it on anything. – So all you need is the right kind of leverage. You break someone’s pattern enough times and a new pattern shows up, that’s exactly the pattern are up that Scrooge had in his life and right now, if you have any kind of negativity in your belief system, today’s video is your pattern interrupt because if you’re conscious, you can create a new pattern and specifically, we’re talking about the power of belief. So Kalenn, instead of this belief that change is hard or difficult, first of all, did you ever struggle with that belief yourself? The one that comes to mind immediately was years ago, before we had kids. I know, that’s like an eternity ago. I hated working out, I hated working out. Kris enjoyed it and he would often invite me to go to the gym with them and just be, “No no no leave me alone. I don’t want to work out.” And I went through a, you know, as moms do, a series of years where you’re fighting “I need to, I should, I want to get the baby weight off. I don’t want to you know pile that on from baby to baby.” And so I would go back and forth from back and forth to the gym and then I’d be like, “Well I’m just having another baby.” So you know, it’s just going to come back on again. That really didn’t help so much but then it was after our fourth kid and I’m like, okay, I really got to get my game on here and if I don’t want it to be miserable, maybe I should make a different belief, I should create something different than “I hate working out” – The only way you create change is changing what you link pain and what you link pleasure to in your neural system and that happens through choosing simply into a more productive belief because if you decide going to the gym is hard then what you’re doing is that, you’re linking it to pain so by the way, every time you think about the gym, pass the gym, see the gym, hear someone talking about the gym, automatically, you’re neurally linked to this idea of pain, difficult, hard, well the reality is, you’re that way because you chose to be that way, you may have been young when, you made that choice, you may not have been aware that you are making such a monumental choice for your life but you did make it so guess what? You can unmake it by making a new choice. What did you decide for yourself that changed things for you? – Well some of my beliefs that I had, I mean there was “I don’t like working out” and I had to look where that came from and it came from my mom didn’t like working out, honestly, that’s what it really was. I didn’t really give it a shot and when I thought about it, the few things I did as a kid, I played softball, I enjoyed it, I was on my drill team so I was one of those those flag twirlers, I enjoyed that, that the few things I did do up until then I actually enjoy and so one of the other beliefs was, I don’t like the monotony of running or I don’t like running. Well okay but what do you like? So I found that I actually liked weightlifting, I liked going to an aerobics class and so I decided to find things I did enjoy and then build that as my evidence of, I do like working out, this is fun, I did it with friends instead of by myself, that made a difference so there’s lots of things you can do to support that belief even if it’s new and you’re not sure about it yet and then finally, I came to, I really enjoy working out, my body feels better when I do. – So right now I’m going to actually catch Kalenn maybe a little off-guard and I want to bring up I want to bring up something specific that just blew me away with the power of her mind because I remember that when we had our first child, she was really committed to having an all natural childbirth, we went to the Bradley method training and I was coaching and training my wife through all this stuff and bottom line is, with that first baby, once it got hard, once Kalenn got to that part of transition, all the training went out the door, at one point, she was crawling up and clawing up the side of the wall and it was so painful as her husband to watch this level of pain and part of me just felt like, man our training didn’t work, having an all-natural baby was such a painful experience, to the point that when Kalenn was pregnant with our second child, I remember, it was about three months before you were going to give birth to Kaiser that all of a sudden, that fear came back saying, “Oh my gosh, the training’s not going to work.” – I kept saying, I don’t want transition, I just don’t want to do that again. – And some of you ladies, if you’ve had a baby I guess I’ll never probably understand it but transition is like that most painful part before you get to the push – But I still wanted to do it naturally. I thought that those two things were just fighting each other. – Yeah, so what was really amazing for me was to say, hey, Kalenn, let’s take the power of belief to the nth level, let’s do something that you’d have to call miraculous, let’s actually see how powerful your mind is. – So he asked me what would be the most miraculous thing in the whole world for this next birth and it was I would skip transition. – Which would mean, literally, going from having contractions – It was 8 to a 10 centimeter with just not feeling it, that would be a miracle. – Meaning not crawling up the side of the wall like one of those terrifying ring movies. It felt a little that way. So what was really beautiful is that nearly every night, Kalenn and I went and we worked on her belief system and I remember, you’d get into a deep meditative state and we would have the conversation of envisioning your ideal birth. – Well and I wrote a nice mantra, a nice half a page mantra of how the birth was going to go, how I was going to feel, where my mind was going to be during it and it was a comfortable birth, it was amazing. – And every single time we got to the stages of delivery, we always left out the part about transition and just talked about that the contractions were increasing, that it was interpreted as pressure as opposed to pain and then – we’re getting stronger – And so the amazing thing was the day that Kaiser was born, it was not only like the most amazing short birth, – it was three hours which was amazing, I walked in at six centimeter. – She walked in at 6 and and we were sitting down and Kalenn wasn’t screaming, she wasn’t crying, she was squeezing my hand – I was totally in my zen, it worked, we walked in about an hour after we got to the hospital, it was time to push and there were maybe one or two really strong contractions but they were nothing compared to that first baby and then it was, “Oh, you’re a ten, time to push.” and I’m like really? It worked. It worked. – Friends, our minds are so incredibly powerful if will give them the benefit of the doubt. Here’s the base advice for the power of belief that I would share today and that we have is our message.. Do not waste your time investing in good mixed with bad beliefs. You have to make a choice and start supporting the left or the right. Start supporting what you want – Or what you like to say is, plus one minus one equals zero, so if you have positive beliefs and negative ones at the same time, counteracting each other, like I want money but money is bad, it’s not going to work. – And so decide today, this is the bonus for today, is become single-minded, make your eyes single to what your desire is and exile any thoughts, words, language, verbage, anything that would counteract the evidence that you’re looking for. We’ve been able to apply this for years now with our children, with our marriage, with our love life, with our education, with spirituality, with every part of life that’s important to us, with our bodies and our health and our fitness and right now, we’ve got an agreement with each other and the agreement is, know what we want and speak and create what we want and what we’ve been purging is human nature, that naturally and unconsciously gravitates towards negativity. Negative beliefs and limiting beliefs and I’m inviting you today, we’re inviting you today to make a choice. Choose to either keep it positive but don’t keep it positive and keep it negative. Just choose one, know what you want, believe in it, see it in your mind before you’re ever going to see it in reality, live with it as if it’s already happened and experience for yourself just how powerful you are. 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